As you know, I (Didymus) have been knee deep in Gang Prevention/Intervention and Prison Re-Entry since 2001, after leaving the street life behind myself. Since then, it’s been a battle to really get things moving with as much momentum as I’d like, especially after moving half way across the country. Even with all my experience, sometimes a little piece of paper is still needed to “magically” open a few doors. With that being said, I recently took a trip to Chicago (home of the Bulls, the Bears and Lou Malnati’s lol) to earn my certification. In fact, I earned three in total which are pictured above. Now, I am officially certified through the National Gang Crime Research Center for Basic Gang Prevention, Faith Based Programs for Gang Intervention and Gang Counseling Skills. I am looking forward to building programs, doing speaking engagements, and most importantly, helping rebuild communities one person at a time. This will also open doors for other programming to help young ladies involved in CSEC, Gangs, and other risky behaviors through the Hadassah 4:14 program, run by my wife Samone. The task ahead bares a heavy load and seemingly impossible tasks, but with Christ all things are possible! Please keep us at SOE in prayer as we partake in this next season of ministry and purpose. If you know anyone who is interested in any of our services, please have them contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org and we will see what assistance we can provide. We appreciate the love and support and look forward to serving the Kingdom in excellence!!
This past week was awesome in a few ways. I’ve been feeling as if, God is finally opening doors that I had begun to lose hope on. I can see the results of hard work and long hours that have been put into my passions. Now I just have to stay the course. I’ve been watching and praying for my oldest daughter Samaiya, she is living how I have been feeling. She is extremely passionate about playing basketball. She began playing at the age of six with a group of kids in our community, through a church we attended. We took a few years off, and through the process of time, we moved back home to Sacramento and she began playing again at the age of ten. She plays at school, she plays in the Nor Cal Youth Sports League, and she gets personal training with Coach Andre at All World Ballin’!
She loves the sport but is so hard and critical on herself when she plays and practices. Most concepts she can grasp easily and efficiently to build a solid foundation but then there are those things that challenge her and bring her to tears. I watch her during games and she wears her heart on her sleeve, when she misses a free throw, when she doesn’t get a rebound, and when her team as a whole is losing. After a bad game the first things out of her mouth are harsh self-criticisms. We talk through it, and even though she may not receive the words of encouragement from her father and I, she never gives up. Each failure is making her stronger and building up her stamina to endure hardships. She’s learning at a young age, how to be disciplined and not crumble under temporary defeat. I am so proud when I see her lace up her shoes and keep playing no matter how bad the last game was, or how sore she was after a heavy practice from her coach. I believe that in the future it will be more than just her father and I watching her lead teams to victory. The skills that she is learning now are shaping her to an amazing leader for the Kingdom of God. Her gift will one day make room for her to lead her peers, and the next generation to levels of unseen greatness for the court and the Kingdom of God.
Then I bring it in and realize that God is doing the same thing in my life, just on a different level. The open doors and opportunities come from never giving in to failure, or my own self-criticisms. That tenacious passion that keeps me up at night, is the gift and God is making room for here in my community. For every reason that I have been told no, or brushed off to the side, or I got the playbook wrong and had to start over; all of this was apart of His equation for my success. The tears have humbled me, the frustration has given me discipline, and the mistakes have made me organized. Everyday I choose to focus on every opportunity to improve and not waste time wallowing in failure and self-deprecating behavior.
A friend reminded me last week that God is very aware of my efforts and my struggles. She reminded me that every promise He has for me, is right in front of me. That I have been so focused on looking forward, that I forgot to look up at the rainbow of blessing right over me. I shall not forsake all that He is doing and will do in my life, business, and ministry. I will not despise the days that I thought were small beginnings. I remembered immediately, “And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19, Holy Bible NKJV. What I have accomplished is just the beginning of it all, and He will prepare me and guide me through the rest of this life. It’s His Kingdom that I strive to live for, and I want Him to get the glory.
Look back on your own life, and ask where I have been my own worst critic? What has God been trying to get me to see in the midst of my frustrations? And what promises can I hold on to for the future? If you don’t know what His promises are for you, I have a good book, for you to start to read, the Bible. If you don’t know where to start I would encourage you to pray about it, and reach out to someone that lives to honor Him. Reach out to me if you have to, and will do what I can. Stay motivated my good people, and look up to the rainbow of promises, just right over your head, instead of looking forward without direction.
- Author S.D. Johnson
“Doing Life With You, For Such A Time As This!”
Author S.D. Johnson shares a brief description of what’s new with S.O.E. Kingdom and an update on the Do Life With Me Challenge.
S.O.E. Kingdom is challenging YOU to make a difference in the life of someone else. Many times the only thing people want is genuine human connection. They want to feel loved and like they have a true friend by their side to do life with. WHAT IF YOU COULD BE THAT PERSON for someone else? What if you could bring them joy, love, be a cheerleader, and a confidant in times of struggle. For the next TWO WEEKS, we CHALLENGE you to STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE and reach out to those around you. Check the VIDEO FOR DETAILS, and just know, that YOU’VE BEEN CHALLENGED!
S.O.E. Kingdom is so proud to announce our FIRST Author Spotlight Interview Featuring Author Carey Anderson.
Carey Anderson is a native of the San Francisco East Bay Area, in California. She comes from a rather large family full of creative and inventive people, hence all of her characters. Carey loves to entertain people with her imagination.
“If I can make you smile, or make you nod your head in agreement. Then I have succeeded in what I’m trying to do, be relatable and realistic.” – Carey Anderson
Check out the interview below and get connected to her today!
SOE Kingdom: How long have you been writing and what first inspired your passion?
Author Carey Anderson: I started writing when I was young. I always kept a diary or a journal since I was little. Leaving me with a writing device and paper can and will result in doodles of some sort.
My elementary school teacher inspired me to write. She was a creative soul and she tried to unlock artistry in her students. She taught our class the basics to draw. Although I didn’t quite get the hang of drawing, her words always ring true for me. She said, “in art you don’t make mistakes. You simply make changes.” One homework assignment changed my life. We had to write a story about where butterflies got their colors. I created a story about Martin Luther Butterfly, that she read to my class anonymously. Seeing my classmates thoroughly entertained by my silly story changed everything for me.
SOE Kingdom: What is your genre or style of writing that you most identify with and why?
Author Carey Anderson: I believe my genre is Urban Romantic Fiction. That may change if I find something in the future that feels more like home.
I feel my stories are Urban because they’re always set in Urban settings. So far they all take place in or refer back to the San Francisco Bay Area where I’ve grown up and lived my entire life. My stories tend to have a romantic over tone. Finally my stories are always works of fiction.
SOE Kingdom: What’s your favorite work of art that you have created thus far?
Author Carey Anderson: Tough question. I’m going to cheat and say that The Wallace Family Affairs saga is my greatest accomplishment thus far. However, if I had to pick just one it would be “At Last”. That was the easiest story to write. The love Annette and Tim had for each other has been the deepest connection outside of Amber and Malcolm or Ethan and Jenise. Chantel and Derrick’s connection holds your attention from beginning to end as both of them grow. Annette and Tim come from that old school love where you let a man be a man and you shower your Queen with all of your love no matter how difficult things get. Tim could’ve taken the lazy road and went with a woman who came without the baggage that Annette came with. From the moment he laid eyes on her he recognized her value and he had to do a lot of growing up to be the man she needed him to be. For Annette she had to let go of the HATE her mother tried to force on her to be free to love the man who truly loved her. I just love how they both had to grow up and how possessive they both were over the love they shared. Also, that neither one of them were too proud to ask for outside help as they grew up. Their bonds with their family the good ones and the bad ones made their love richer and deeper.
Right behind At Last would be Sometimes Love Isn’t Enough (Volume II). That’s the story of Amber and Malcolm. In Tracy’s Complications (Volume I) Andrew kept telling Tracy he grew up differently than she did. She came from a religious two parent family, where Andrew’s life was different. In Sometimes Love Isn’t Enough, you find out exactly what he meant. By the end of that book you’re shaking your head in agreement that sometimes love isn’t enough to make a relationship work.
Then there’s Just A Friend (Volume VIII) Ethan and Jenise… when you see the love of your life with your heart nothing else matters.
Finally in No Regrets (Volume V) we have Derrick and Chantel. Both of them have to learn to deal with the reality of who their parents are and decide who they’re going to be. I love all of my books, but those stories are my top four.
Here’s the book order not necessarily the publishing order:
Tracy’s Complications (Volume I) Tracy and Andrew have to let go of their insecurities and their past to allow love in today.
Distorted Mirrors (Beyond The Wallace’s) Tracy and Steve, the beginning of dysfunction.
Sometimes Love Isn’t Enough (Volume II Part 1) Amber and Malcolm’s ideas of love aren’t realities.
Love Is Just Enough (Volume II Part 2) Amber and Malcolm, stand your ground and fight.
Invisible (Volume III) Yussef, hiding never does anyone any good.
Look Beyond Your Eyes (Volume IV) Sasha, pretty is not a guarantee for happiness, search your soul and be true to who you are no matter what type of box other people try to put you in.
No Regrets (Volume V) Chantel and Derrick, when you make choices for your life make sure your choice doesn’t leave you with regrets.
First You Laugh, Then You Cry (Volume VI) Kendra and Darryl, when you assume that someone will hurt you, chances are they will.
A Heart That’s Taken (Beyond The Wallace’s) Olivia and Ahjani, you have to close the door to your old relationship before starting a new one.
At Last (Volume VII) Annette and Tim, never get so caught up in your own pain that you fail to see how you destroy others.
Just A Friend (VIII) Jenise and Ethan, the choices you make in your youth stay with you in your adulthood.
Abandoned (Beyond The Wallace’s) Victor and Dalenna, when the feelings of abandonment guide everything that you do, you’re asking for trouble.
Last Words (Beyond The Wallace’s) Pamela Latour, the truth shall set you free.
SOE Kingdom: What character do you most identify with and why?
Author Carey Anderson: Another tough one! I don’t know. Most of my characters carry parts of me within them. (Taps fingers to think) Tracy Thomas – Wallace is my dramatic twin. All of her insecurities and her run first think later personality is all me.
SOE Kingdom: Are there any other people or things that inspire you to write?
Author Carey Anderson: Yes, everyone and everything, very general I know. My teenager is a huge inspiration. My huge family of creative and dramatic people. The warrior spirit that exist in most of my family members sets my creative juices on fire. To quote one of my cousins, “when you come from a performing family” you find inspiration in the oddest places. Whether its a melody, a sunset, a tree, a motorcyclist passing you by on the freeway. The oddest things seem to capture my attention and then I need to write about it.
My Rough Riders (my book club and dearest friends) seem to understand this about me and they feed me with inspiration all of the time. Whether it’s feedback on my latest chapter that I’ve sent them or going over the timeline that has to always be accurate. They inspire me to say that just maybe I can do this.
SOE Kingdom: What do you want your audience to know about you as an author?
Author Carey Anderson: That I’m a work in progress and I thoroughly enjoy reading all reviews and ratings. I tend to stalk Amazon and GoodReads looking for signs of life and encouragement to keep going. I love hearing from my readers. Some even message me during or as soon as they finish reading my books. Who doesn’t like positive feedback?
SOE Kingdom: Share one hidden talent that not many people know about?
Author Carey Anderson: Writing is actually my hidden talent. Since I write under a pen name only a select few know about my work personally.
SOE Kingdom: How can people contact you and get a hold of your books?
Author Carey Anderson:
I’m on Facebook:
I have a website:
I’m on Twitter:
I’m on Instagram:
My books are available in electronic and paperback format on www.amazon.com/author/careyanderson and in electronic format only on www.barnesandnoble.com
CLICK THE PROFILE PICTURE BELOW & BE LINKED DIRECTLY TO AUTHOR CAREY ANDERSON’S AMAZON AUTHOR PAGE:
“The most important things in a marital relationship are fidelity, communication, and compromise!” -Didymus
Before we get too far into this topic, I’d like to give my definition of what a marriage is. I know not all may see things the way I do, but in order to have a foundation to build upon, the following is the definition we will rely upon for this article. “Marriage is the first and most sacred institution created by Yahweh in which one man and one woman become interdependent, operating as one flesh in order to effectively fulfill Yahweh’s first command to bear fruit, fill the earth and have dominion, as an extension of His heavenly rule in the earth!” (Gen 1 & 2) Since marriage is intended to be a life long commitment the design of the “home” you are building will be ever expanding as you and your spouse get to know each other over the years (yes, learning your spouse is endless). This is in no way an exhaustive blueprint to a loving, effective and lasting marriage but just a few key elements that can help this building project get off to a great start or back on the right track. Now that the foundation has been set, let’s begin to build the dream houses we’ve always desired.
The first building block I’d like to explore is fidelity. Let’s face it, no relationship of any kind can stand the test of time without it. If one or both of the parties is unfaithful to the team mission, the team completely falls apart and will collapse under it’s own weight. A house divided against itself can’t stand. So what does fidelity look like? Well, in a marriage this can be a tricky question because although we may assume we know, we may not actually have the same idea as our marital partner. Faithfulness can include, sexual integrity (adultery, pornography, flirting, etc.) financial stewardship and honesty (abiding by a budget, shared accounts, etc.) and even boundaries (any access an individual of the opposite sex has to you, whether personally or digitally/electronically) just to name a few. All these things need to be discussed (hopefully before you get married) so that lines of communication won’t be crossed.
This brings us to the second building block; communication. Communication is not always about being vocal, but it is always a two way street. Both verbal and non-verbal communication is essential to a marriage, but don’t be misled into thinking all communication is good communication. In order to effectively communicate with your spouse, you must learn to speak their language. This can be a tough thing to do, especially in the beginning years of marriage and trust me, if I had the formula I’d gladly share it with you, but unfortunately only time and conversation (sometimes heated) will lead to perfection in this area. Most importantly, both parties need to feel that their voice is heard and respected when communicating their needs. Both parties also need to remember that their spouse is not a mind reader and unspoken desires often go un-catered to, not due to their spouse’s reluctance to meet a need, but due to lack of knowledge that a particular need has gone unmet.
Lastly, we must talk about compromise. Often the glue to effective communication, compromise says to your spouse that you place their needs, feelings, and desires above yours and that you value them greatly and esteem them highly. Another key word to reference when speaking of compromise is submission. Yep, you read that right…SUBMISSION! This goes for both parties. As mutual submission takes place between the two of you, you will natural meet each other’s needs and fulfill each other’s desires because compromise will feel much less like a task or duty and more like a privilege and opportunity to show your spouse how much they mean to you. I even see it as friendly competition, but maybe that’s just the competitive spirit in me lol! If compromise is not an essential building block of a marriage, the relationship will feel one-sided and one spouse will begin to lose respect for the other and that spells disaster on all fronts!
Again, this is by no means a magical formula for a perfect marriage, nor are these three areas the only important areas to focus on. My hope is that this brief essay will help guide you to the same place my wife of 5 years and I aspire to be…marital bliss
Let Didymus give you a breakdown of what’s new with S.O.E. Kingdom. Get connected with him and stay tuned, because there is so much more to come.
Hadassah 4:14 Mentoring group is back in action December 8th, 2015. S.O.E. Kingdom has partnered with Bridge Network here in Sacramento, CA. This is a leadership & personal development group open to ALL young ladies of our community. Check out the video below for all the details from mentor & facilitator Author S.D. Johnson. This is open to young ladies in middle school and beyond. Get involved and get ready to do life with an amazing group of ladies in the community.
Okay folks!!!! TEAM WEEK is here!!! For the next two weeks, we want to know WHO’S TEAM ARE YOU ON??? We will be sharing from Ball Hog on various social media sites(or if you have a copy already you can JOIN IN RIGHT AWAY). We’ll be giving you an INSIDE LOOK at the characters. You’ll get the GOOD, the BAD, and the UGLY about WHO THEY ARE; and what makes them TICK.
Send us a 10 sec VIDEO, explaining who’s team you are on and WHY and we’ll BLAST you, RIGHT HERE on the S.O.E. Kingdom website. Are you READY, SET, GO!
#BallHog #SOEKingdom. #WHOSTEAMAREYOUON
This blog is more of a thanksgiving to Yahweh and a dedication to whom He has given me. I get emotional as I sit here reflecting on my blessings. I have been given an amazing husband, best friend, ministry/business partner, lover, parent-partner, and encourager. My husband knows me well and tries daily to learn how to keep me happy and emotionally stable. He has taken on a lot through our journey of marriage and we have been hit hard individually and collectively. All the while his love as never stuttered.
My love accepts and caters to my oldest daughter from a previous marriage. You can’t tell him that she is not his own. Through God’s word he gives her counsel and love. He teaches her daily to respect herself. Through his love for me, he teaches her how a man should treat and love a woman. Together we lost a child in a miscarriage and the hit devastated us and I was left inconsolable. He sat up long nights attending to my broken heart and gave me his heart to care for in return. He doesn’t show much emotion but with me he does, and in that moment he allowed me to take care of his raw emotions of loss.
My One & Only, took care of me in my season of sickness. Blessed now with twins after that terrible blow to our family unit, I get to see the joy in his eyes as he looks at our little daughter and son. For three years I struggled with not being able to give him the child he wanted and he dealt with me so gently. Everyday after long hours of work he would remind me of his love for me, and ensured that it would never fade. Like a true knight in shining armor, he caught me every time I fell into doubt and worry. He would say to me, “Babe! Just as God remembered Hannah, so shall he remember you.” He would push my faith to rest in God’s hands. In return we reaped a major blessing, from years of praying diligently. We received a double portion of Yahweh’s love right from this womb the doctors deemed as barren.
As we begin our sixth year of covenant in marriage and I couldn’t ask for more. When nay-sayers knock my dreams, he stands firm in reminding me of my purpose. He protects my heart from the outside world, and pushes me to work a little harder when I want to give up and walk away. Reminds of my beauty when I can’t see it within myself, and he never tries to change me. He accepts me as I am fully. My husband puts no one but God ahead of me. He could only love me the way he does, because of his love for God. It doesn’t get much better than this! I have never experienced a love like this outside of the love of God.
My heart and spirit are challenged to love him better. I need to show him more and more what he means to me. I need to overload his being with the admiration and appreciation that I feel every day. I want him to know that I miss him when we are apart and that I still swoon when he smiles. I need to let him know that I still get chills when he kisses me. I am in love…
I thank God for giving me my biggest supporter here on earth, and the biggest advocate for my cause. We are both works in progress, but we choose to work together. That’s what matters the most. No one, and mean no one; could take his place and purpose in my life. “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth — For your[b] love is better than wine.” – Song of Solomon 1:2. That’s just how I feel about him.
Author S.D. Johnson